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Parenting Teenagers.

Teens are a really tough crowd. They come with a whole new set of challenges that, often times, we as adults forget just how difficult life was as a teenager.

I think the best way to deal with teens as a parent is to draw on your emotional experiences from when you were their age. Of course, you must be terrified that they do the same things and make the same mistakes that you did. But don't forget that that is part of life.

In this video (link above) I look at teenage-specific challenges and provide a few tips on how to handle those challenges as a parent. 

For further information or to book a session for your teen you can contact me on 084 658 0388.

Understanding your Children and the Challenges They Bring.

Every Second Sunday, I give live classes with Healing Clouds. Healing Clouds is a 1:1 online therapy platform that also provides therapist-led courses and live classes.

currently my series is on Parenting and understanding your children. The aim is to help parents handle their children in more positive ways and to provide some kind of guide through the different phases they experience as they grow.

In this first class, (see link to recorded version of live class), we discuss:

- How identity is formed.

- The different personality types and

- How you as a parent, can facilitate your child's identity formation, and relate to them better based on their personality types.

Understanding Your Attachment Styles.

As young Children, we form attachment styles. These attachment styles are formed based on how we are cared for by our primary caregivers. As we grow older and become adults, these attachment styles tend to affect how we relate to others and how we form relationships.

 

Check out this webinar that provides insight on the four types of attachment styles, how they affect relationships and how you can work on yourself to move from an anxious attachment to a more secure style of attachment.

Listening as part of Social Health.

Having healthy social and interpersonal interactions is a big part of being mentally healthy. We spoke about having empathy, but today we speak about listening. After all, you cant have empathy without listening and hearing what the problem is.

Your challenge this week is to practice your listening skills and also, have a look at the people who are supposed to listen to you. Are they doing it well? How and where do you need to improve on your listening skills?

Follow the link above to see this weeks video content. Remember to like and share:)

Setting Boundaries.

Part of being socially healthy is setting boundaries. Specifically with regards to personal space and time.

Setting boundaries plays a role in keeping you sane, to say the least.

This week I give you two links. The first takes you to my Facebook page where you see my normal weekly blog. The second takes you a a webinar I took part in that is all about boundaries. 

Empathy for improved social Health.

Being mentally healthy, includes having healthy relationships with other people in various aspects of life such as work, school, home, friends etc. The point being that WE NEED OTHER PEOPLE! it has been found that solitary confinement is the worst kind of punishment to give a human being. Imagine never seeing or talking to another human for the rest of your life?

I am sure some of you are thinking that would be amazing! Well yes, because sometimes we just need to get away from people, But I guarantee after a few days you will begin to go crazy talking to yourself and all.

This week your challenge is to practice,improve and show empathy towards other people.

follow the link above for this weeks video!

Beliefs and Emotions.

Our emotions are directly affected by our beliefs about a situation. As humans we have many thought processes that are not always correct. 

Do not get me wrong, in no way should you ever apologize for the way you feel, even if it comes from a misunderstanding. But incorrect beliefs can result in Emotionally fueled outbursts that you may have to apologize for.

This week I challenge you to take a step back, and consider what you believe, challenge those beliefs and then take it from there.

follow the link above to see the video. please like and follow my Facebook page.

Emotional Health and Needs.

This week we have a look at how unmet needs have a direct impact on our emotional health. When it comes to unmet needs, the only way to get them met is to ask for them.

We all have a tendency to expect that other people know what we need from them. Today I encourage you to change that mind set and start to take responsibility over asking for what you need. Many of our constant negative emotions that arise due to specific situations is a result of these unmet needs. 

your challenge this week is to find the underlying needs to your constant negative emotions in specific situation.

FOLLOW THE LINK ABOVE TO SEE THE VIDEO FOR THIS WEEK!

What Does Mental Health Entail?

Phoenix Counselling has now started a weekly video blog to Promote and Improve mental health.

follow the link above to see the video blog! 

In this first blog find out what it means to be mentally healthy and challenge yourself to look into your own levels of mental health.

Comments and suggestions on topics are welcome.

 

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I assist you to find a way to cope with everyday life and challenges (traumatic experience or simply everyday life) that has led to hopelessness.

I am qualified to work with adults, children and teenagers.